Home Sweet Home
Where do you fit? …or do you? Have you found your place in this life and in this world that feels good to you? Where is the place you feel most at home? Do you have one? Where do you feel safe and supported? I’m here to tell you that there will always be room for you here.
If you’re struggling to find your place, let me remind you that “fitting in” is not nearly the same thing as “belonging”. You can never fail at being yourself. You will always belong anywhere you show up as yourself in a real, true, and authentic way. Belonging has everything to do with being you, regardless of what that looks like to anyone else. Belonging is the freedom to be yourself without needing anyone else’s approval. Belonging isn’t about changing who we are. Instead, it requires us to BE who we are, no matter what that looks like.
Stop apologizing for who you are and how you feel. Invite people to walk with you as you discover the pieces of who you are and how you got there. I encourage you to walk with others and learn about the journeys they’ve traveled as well. Call people in…have real conversations about the things that matter to you and hold space for others to do the same.
That risk you’re afraid to take, could be the very thing that changes the rest of your life. I ask you to trust that you will have to fight through some really awful days to earn some of the very best days of your entire life. Growing can feel a lot like breaking at first, but the things you discover about yourself in the process will be worth every bit of the discomfort you experience as you walk your path forward. Often times, the only way out is through. Just. Keep. Moving.
Don’t forget…You are allowed to outgrow people. This also includes all of the old versions of yourself that no longer serve you. Think about that. Think about what that really means. That means giving yourself grace, forgiving yourself. It means making mistakes and making them often. It means you keep showing up, no matter what. Forgive others but more importantly, forgive yourself. The greatest project you will ever do the most important work on is yourself. Compassionate people don’t care about being right. Compassion and empathy help people understand and understanding connects us to one another.
Be the main character in your life. Don’t try to fit in. Instead, belong. I promise you, in time, it will feel like home. Welcome Home…
